We have lots of home videos of Christmases past when the boys were little. As they grew and the presents became more practical and less “toy”, one thing didn’t change from year to year. Every Christmas and birthday, the boys had to show each present to the camera and say who that present was from. “This “EtchaSketch” is from Aunt Susan,” little Stephen would say. Mitch might say, ”Thanks, Uncle Richard, for this nice sweater,” as he held up his gift. When the boys were real young, the process would get pretty funny. Little Mitch might say something like, “This baboon (balloon) is from Uncle Ginny.” Well, the process was the same at every Christmas and birthday: open the present, hold it up and say “thank you” to the giver.
I really regret having had the boys go through that gruelling process. My intentions were to instill in them a sense of gratitude. I didn’t want them to take gifts for granted, focusing more on the gift than the generosity of the giver.
Maybe my obsession came from my own years of lack of gratitude, when I took things for granted and even had the nerve to complain when I didn’t have the things I wanted when I wanted them.
Not sure here, but I think that maybe ingratitude more than anything irks God. He pours out sunshine and rain on good people and bad alike. We wouldn’t last one nano-second without his generous provisions, yet we complain so much. It’s too hot. It’s too cold. Too much rain. Not enough rain. Nothing good on TV. I’m bored. Is this all there is? I haven’t eaten in two hours! All I do is work, work, work! She is so uppity! He’s so strange. Why can’t you be like other husbands? Our house is too small. My car is five years old. Why can’t I have an iPod like everyone else? My hair won’t do right. I wish I had hair. And on and on and on…
I really don’t know the secret to being grateful. Except perhaps to put yourself around people who have far less than you, or those whose health has failed them. Maybe it would help to live on half our salary for a year. I really think it would help if we get our focus off those who have more than we do and simply enjoy what we have. (A young couple we know committed to not purchasing anything new for a year.)
I am really trying to grow in this area of thankfulness. When you try, it’s amazing what you find to be thankful for. Things that I took for granted in the past hold new value to me now. I love sunsets and sunrises. And time with Lynn doing nothing. And hamburgers. And my neighbors. And every ache-free morning. And work. And old hymns. And sons who are not in a war. Our two wonderful daughters-in-law. And freedom. And chess pie. And old friends. And memories…
Do you have any ideas on developing an attitude of gratitude? Some of you do this very well and I’d like for you to share your secret. What are you most thankful for?
Garrison Keillor